A note to everyone crawling through grief right now.
I see you. And my heart is with you.
Please know, that everyone grieves differently.
And in those moment, as much as you are able, lower the judgement you may be experiencing surrounding how are you grieving at this time.
Sifting through emotions is difficult enough, grief is a whole other ballpark.
Some stay in their routine, feeling the safety of structure allows them to move through their experience in a way that feels safe to them.
Some stay in bed, needing to have space and rest.
Some want to see people and talk through their tears.
Others need to sob in aloneness.
Some need to move their bodies.
Others feel paralyzed by the somatic weight of grief.
Loss doesn’t come with a handbook.
Please note that any and all reactions to grief and loss are welcome.
You may notice numbness, exhaustion or increased adrenaline, lowered appetite, aches and physical manifestations of pain, trouble sleeping, difficulty concentrating, tearfulness or inability to cry altogether.
The representation of grief we may see around us is not indicative of everyone’s experience of grief. So please go gently on yourself.
Experiencing an array of emotions during this time is normal.
We can feel grief and gratitude
Loss and peace
Sadness and surrender
All at once
And then those emotions will shift as no feeling is final. The situation does not become easier, you begin to adapt and adjust to the pain. Just like dunking your hand into freezing cold water, at first it is biting and frigid. Swiftly, your body adapts, however it is not pleasant. Not for one second.
Your grief is valid. Find what is comforting to you to hear, as everyone needs to hear something different. Let it fall into your lap.
While the world may come with offerings or advice of how to get through this grief, please know that the providers here at Sinnergy offer nothing to you but space. A soft place to fall. Hands to hold, no matter how shaky.
Take all the time you need.
Resources for supportive those experiencing grief and loss
Ways to support someone who is grieving – Harvard Health
Grief and Loss (cdc.gov)